Most people aren’t really happy but they aren’t unhappy enough to do anything about it. That’s a dangerous place to be.
–Tony Robbins
(via Hey Fran Hey)
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Am I Actually Being Ignored Or Do I Just Think That I’m Being Ignored Because I Have An Exorbitantly High Need For Attention: An Autobiography
BUZZFEED UNDERSTANDS MY STRUGGLE.
Alone time generally feels like some combination of Spongebob staring at the tea in #5 and the guy playing catch with himself in #20. And watching TV together as quality time usually provokes the same reaction from me as it did from Mindy in #21. And I feel like I judge myself along the lines of #25, except that I do literally always have a book on my physical person. Similarly, I don’t think the people in my life think of me as being too needy (#7), but I feel like I’m being super needy all the time and wish I was more self-sufficient. But LOL #8 and #9 are 100% me, which feels like it cancels out any hope of self-sufficiency. Which makes me sad, and then I copy and paste the same things in g-chat to start conversations with like 5 people (#2).
if you were praised for being smart as a child and now feel crippling sensations of inadequacy when you don’t instantly know how to do something perfectly clap your hands
(via the dopest ethiopienne)
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I’m usually a pretty logical/practical person, but sometimes a random monthly horoscope is exactly what you need:
Aquarius: There are things that come easy to you, and things that take work, and it can be easy to get them mixed up. It can be easy to get so impatient for your work to pay off all at once, impatient for the future to become clear right away. This month, try not to worry and try not to rush. There is a whole world full of deserts and oceans and life. There is love on all sides of you, strange and warm and bright. Keep your eyes open. Look around. You’re just where you should be.
(via The Toast)
Reblogging from @briyanad cuz she and I do this for one another
Language, Part I
This!
The Answer Is Never
Yesssss someone else who has literally never ever wanted to have children, explaining things more eloquently (and from a more wizened vantage point) than I am currently capable of. #IdidntlikechildrenwhenIwasachild
Sabine Heinlein | Longreads | April 2015 | 16 minutes (3,886 words)
One time, when I was in my early twenties, I shared a hospital room with a mother of many. I had a skin infection that wouldn’t respond to oral medication, and the 50-something-year-old woman had severe, inexplicable hives. Our main topic of conversation revolved around neither of our ailments. It was about my not wanting to have children. She was insistent, which seemed ironic considering her hives flared up whenever her family visited her on Sundays. I eventually compromised with the woman. Okay, I said, I will put off my decision until I reach my thirties. “You are starry-eyed,” she huffed. “You young women want it all. But you can’t have it all!” Maybe, I thought, some of us don’t want it all.
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“All About Love”
Reblogging this from myself because I just sent some of these quotes to BD for her February Blackfirmations project and I was struck by the degree to which the love ethic hooks describes has shaped my whole relationship with JJ. It’s funny to be I-want-as-much-of-you-in-my-life-as-possible-for-as-long-as-possible me looking at me from the beginning of our relationship (we’d been out I think 4 times at the time of this post) talking about how “love [had] always felt very out of my league.” Love is a life-changing thing.
All About Love: New Visions is a book by bell hooks, and if you are a person who likes to think critically about your relationships, romantic, platonic, or otherwise, you need to read it. Like, now.
I will freely admit that love is a word that thoroughly intimidates me, though at the same time it’s a word some would say I overuse. I would say that it’s a term I understood how to apply to friends, and had always applied liberally to family members, but is not a term (or even a concept) I felt comfortable with when you combined it with romance or sexual affection. In that context, “love” has always felt very out of my league. This has caused problems in the past.
I know what it feels like to like someone. To be infatuated. To feel an instant sort of “click” or connection–some might call it a…
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Not Everything Needs A Silver Lining
Thought Catalog from 2 weeks ago is just full of things I need to hear.
I'm Such an AFROholic 